The Post-College Guide to Happiness for The Happiness Blog Tour. I'm giving away free digital review copies of the book and doing a giveaway for paperback copies, audio copies and even a Kindle Fire! Read on and check out the info below the post.
"The art of living does not consist in preserving and clinging to a particular mood of happiness, but in allowing happiness to change its form without being disappointed by the change; for happiness, like a child, must be allowed to grow up."
-Charles Langbridge Morgan
I can look back on it and laugh now, but some of the things I wanted at the age of 18 would not have made me happy in the long run. While I didn't know what I wanted to do in life, I knew what I wanted to be. I wanted to be married less than a year or two out of college. I was so full of puppy love back then, I just assumed I would fall for someone in college and want to get married and start a family right away. I wanted to be silly and funny all of the time and to have everybody laugh at me and with me constantly. I also wanted to be famous and to have everything that came with it.
While I have fallen deeply in love, had some comedic times and I'm more popular than I used to be, I wouldn't say that I've achieved any of these things. If I've failed at those desires that 18-year-old me had, why am I not miserable? It's because the things I needed to achieve happiness have changed over time.
That wasn't always the case though. A year or two out of college I still wanted those same things that the younger version of me wanted. I felt like I needed them to be happy and since I hadn't achieved them, I labeled myself a colossal failure. It wasn't until I really thought about what I wanted, until I updated my wish list, that I realized happiness was still possible. I wasn't 18 anymore. Why on Earth was I still trying to fulfill the wishes of someone who hadn't even graduated high school yet?
I set out to create a new set of goals and a new way to be happy. Instead of looking for puppy love, I looked to understand love more effectively so that I could have a good relationship with my partner, not necessarily a fast or fairy tale one. I spent time on looking for my calling in life and found that with enough hard work, I could get both satisfaction and sustenance from my writing. I realized that fame wasn't nearly as important to me as helping people and I started to reach out more to make a difference.
Re-evaluate and adapt your happiness for the person you are today. Don't try to base it on exactly what you wanted five, 10 or more years ago. Like Morgan says, it's time to let your happiness grow up.
Bryan Cohen is a writer, actor and comedian from Dresher, Pennsylvania. He graduated from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill in 2005 with degrees in English and Dramatic Art and a minor in Creative Writing. He has written nine books including 1,000 Creative Writing Prompts: Ideas for Blogs, Scripts, Stories and More, 500 Writing Prompts for Kids: First Grade through Fifth Grade, Writer on the Side: How to Write Your Book Around Your 9 to 5 Job and his new book, 1,000 Character Writing Prompts: Villains, Heroes and Hams for Scripts, Stories and More. His website Build Creative Writing Ideas helps over 25,000 visitors a month to push past writer's block and stay motivated.
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